New Year, New Pressures: My Thoughts and Opinions

From as far back as the first week of December (2017), I’d been pondering over what my first post of 2018 would be.

Would I share some of my greatest lessons from 2017?

Would I share how I think we can all make the most of 2018 or share with you my goals?

Would I come at you with a typical-ish motivational post, telling you the beginning of the year is an opportunity to start all over, a chance to rewrite your life, etc., etc.?

I definitely knew my post would have no ‘new year, new me’ mantra (because a new year, does not a new person make).

I have a few opinions on the drama that comes with a new year, though. I shall share two of them with you.

 

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1st of January is Just Another Day

The 1st of January is usually a day that gets people excited. The most obvious reason is that it represents the beginning of a new chapter, a new phase, fresh hope. A chance to redo things, right wrongs…and all that good stuff. Unfortunately, because it is preceded by the 31st Of December, a figurative ‘end’, it’s also a reminder of goals that are yet to be. It’s a reminder of hopes and dreams that haven’t come to pass.

We’ve reached the end of another year and I’m still not married.

We’ve reached the end of another year and still no babies.

We’ve reached the end of another year and still no promotion at work.

We’ve reached the end of another year and I’m still waiting for admission into the university.

These thoughts may then lead you to think of yourself as a failure. Well…this is what I believe: the 1st of January is just another day. A friend of mine said this to me a few years ago. I don’t remember his exact words. I also don’t remember what we were speaking about when he said this to me. I wish I could; that way, I would’ve incorporated it into this post. It would have made for a more interesting story. I do recall, though, how liberated I felt after he said this.

Yes, yes, I know the 1st of January was a couple of days ago and in hindsight, maybe this post should’ve been published before the new year. However, I believe this statement and subsequently, this post are still relevant. The 1st of January is simply the day after the 31st of December. The same way the 16th of August rolls into the 17th and 2nd of June rolls into the 3rd.

If you notice, usually, towards the end of each year, there’s this rush, this urgency in the atmosphere to complete set targets and goals. There’s this excessive ‘ginger’ to make the most of the rest of the year. And we become hard on ourselves when we don’t ‘meet up’.

Ladies and gentlemen, the 1st of January is just another day. When we have this thought at the backs of our minds, we don’t put undue pressure on ourselves and on others (to complete goals that we have, sometimes, given unrealistic timelines)—pressure that pushes us to make dumb decisions. One thing I learnt last year is to have a vision and to set a timeframe to achieve it. Work relentlessly, diligently and intelligently towards it. The vision may not happen when you hope for it to. And that’s OK. Keep pressing towards seeing it come to be.

So if you didn’t meet your targets as at the 31st of December, just carry on working towards them. You are OK.

 

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Try Something Different From Your Regular

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

-Unknown (though someone said the quote may have been made by Albert Einstein. Go figure)

If the things you’ve been doing and your actions so far aren’t giving you the results you desire, why not try something different in 2018 if you can. Try a different tactic, a different strategy. Something else. Anything else. Imagine cooking a certain dish, using the exact, same types and amount of spices each time and always expecting it to taste different. Is that possible? Certainly not.

If you want a promotion or a raise at work, you’ve been putting in ample effort and you still haven’t been promoted, why not try a different approach. Maybe speak to whoever is in charge about it. Or speak to someone who can speak to someone who can speak to someone who has the power to promote you.

If you want to move your business forward and you’ve been publicising on WhatsApp, to the same people, using the same message and you still aren’t seeing the results you want, try something else. Maybe publicise on Instagram, make your message of advertisement more fun and catchy or ask for referrals. I don’t know…but let it be something different from what you usually do.

Try something different from your regular!

 

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Having said all that, I wish you all a very happy and fruitful new year. If your strategies didn’t bring you the results you desired as 2017 came to a close, don’t beat yourself up. Keep pushing towards your goal and where necessary, adopt an alternative strategy.

2018 will certainly be alright.

I would love to know what you all have planned for 2018. Any grand plans? What goals did you smash in 2017? Please, share with me.

Xoxoxo,
Ihuoma.

10 thoughts on “New Year, New Pressures: My Thoughts and Opinions

  1. See eh, this new year, new me thing is just bullsh*t to me (please pardon my french). I was talking to my inlaw, I think on the 30th and I said something like we should complete so and so project because the deadline was in 2 days. And she asked, “why are you doing blah blah in the new year? This new year you have to make sure things of the previous year are not carried over.” I told her, categorically, that Jan 1 was just another day. And here I am, reading it in your blog.

    I totally agree with you that we put a lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves because it’s a new year. The sooner we realise that it’s just another day, the better for us.

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  2. Loved it…. Nice…. after the normal new year rush and ginger… every1 has returned to normal protocol. It was sha just initial gragra.

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